Taking total responsibility for my life is my SuperPower



My life is unrecognizable today compared to 4 years ago. I was that girl, stressed out, suffering in silence, smiling while dying inside, poor sleep, drinking too much, isolated, and couldn't see my next.

I completely lost my passion. I was bored. And living a life for my then husband, child, clients and community.

I lost myself. And was miserable. I had to take action. I had to chose me. And I was able to turn my life around completely.

I got tired of hearing myself complain and for damn sure was tired of spending $200 a session for my therapist to tell me what the fuck I already knew.

Change came with responsibility.

As much as I was perpetrating as

a strong black woman

I can do it all by my damn self …nonsense;

I was a hot flaming mess of excuses and too damn busy blaming people for the poor decisions I was making.

I surely was not down with victim mentality, however, I was the only...

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7 Ways to Manage Chronic Stress When Trauma is Present

How to pull yourself up when feeling down.

My friend scooped me up in her sporty Infinity, excited to see me and ready to have a fun weekend.

I wanted to feel better, and hoped her presence would save me from the gloom of anxiety.

As we sat in traffic I noticed my shallow breath and said, “I can’t stop shaking. Like the vibration from the deep bass of blasting speakers, my insides trembled.

It was hard to find the words to describe my feelings. In turn, I shared a story.

I was about 9 years old. On this day, she was different. Something inside was broken. I could see her shame as I could see her helplessness and hopelessness through her tears as she winced in pain.

Stevie Wonder played in the background. As if the record were scratched, it’s etched in my mind. One song. It played repeatedly. Or maybe I sang it repeatedly to ground myself. … “Lately”.

I see him, I see them, I see the stand off. Knowing exactly what was going to happen. I watched,...

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YES will change your life

Yes can change you and your situation. 

I said yes to myself and my life has changed drastically.

I am living a life beyond my wildest dreams.

I have made a decision to live my truth.

No longer doing anything because I have to, only doing what I want to do.

Only doing things that are aligned with my spirit.

I said yes to myself.

As a result of this, I am shedding. Shedding cells, shedding tears, shedding relationships, shedding unhealthy behaviors, shedding emotions, shedding my old way of being.

There are moments when I feel as if I cannot breathe. The tears continue to flow and there is so much pain. OH how a glass of wine, sitting outside in the sun would make this feeling go away.

“Bullshit” says my spirit. “This pain is not going to kill you. Experience this pain, respect this pain, listen to it. Your pain wants to be released. It wants to move, It wants to flow. So just let it be”.

The tears are flowing. They represent so much. They represent not...

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The Do’s And Don’ts When Stressed

The Do’s And Don’ts When Stressed

Everyone experiences some degree of stress at some point in their lives. Some stress is minimal and is resolved easily and other times it is long standing and consumes your life.

Stress doesn’t necessarily become a problem until you find yourself in an unhealthy or unbearable situation that you can’t get any relief from.

So, I am going to give you a short list of the Do’s And Don’ts When Stressed that will help you gain control of your thoughts and emotions.



  1. Breathe (Tap here to download Video 1 of the  Zap Stress in 5 Video)
    Your breath is the greatest gift of Source that is taken for granted. Breathing is the number one thing you can do to ground yourself, relieve tension, calm down, and slow down your busy thoughts.

    A few deep breathes will immediately shift your disposition when practiced a few times and exercised regularly.

     Where ever you are, simply...

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Stop worrying about what other people think

Stop worrying about what other people think and what other people have to say about you and your situation.

It's really none of your business. 

I can't say it enough.

Too often we get caught up in what people are thinking, what they are saying, how they may be feeling, and it really has nothing to do with us.

Let people be people and you focus on what you have control over. 

When you get in your head, running down rabbit holes, chasing all of the reasons why someone said what they said or might say to you, you will find that you are missing out.

You are missing out on opportunities to grow. 

Think about it.

When you are worried about how people are going to respond to you, you are not focused on your business. You are focused on them, consumed with self-doubt and fear. 

You can never forget how uniquely amazing you are. 

When you stand firmly behind your vision - by any means necessary, you will show up consistently, produce your content, and have the...

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